Too often in life we’re coddled and pacified.
We’re taught at birth that if we cry for something loud enough, we’ll get it. From bottles to our diaper changed- make some noise and it’ll happen. As we grow a little and join team sports, second and third placed teams get trophies in pee wee leagues and being denied a flat out win is subdued.
In other words, it takes a while for us to face the feeling of rejection. Hearing the word no.
Most people are afraid of the word. Have that question in their head of what if somebody says no. This is especially prevalent when it comes to approaching a person you’re interested in.
Many people look at the parts of a relationship and struggle with how to get from meeting someone to getting on that first date. It’s easy to tell somebody to be confident, but it’s not like confidence can just spring up on you at any moment. The foundation of confidence is the fearlessness of the word No.
My Dad told me when I was 13 years old- “Son, for every 10 women you ask out, 3 are gonna say yes. And nobody gets kicked out the big leagues for batting .300.” So essentially what I was told in a very clever way is to expect rejection at least 70% of the time. Expect to hear the word no 7 of 10 times. I remember going to a school dance and askin my mom about how to get a girl to dance with me. She said “just ask, either they’ll say say or no- they won’t beat you up for it.” Translation- embrace rejection. It happens but it’s not the worst thing in the world.
So I was taught early on to embrace rejection. Embrace the word No. After all like I’ve said in previous posts, the true test of a relationship is not about what you love about somebody, but what you don’t like. A relationship doesn’t truly start until the first objection. But of course you have to get in the relationship first. So do yourself a favor.
Embrace the word no.
My Two Cent on Love 