Falling in love can and should be one of the most rewarding and exhilarating times of your life. I got an email from someone who’s dealing with falling in love with someone. The problem is- it’s not her man. So when you already have the one you love or like then begin feeling chemistry for someone else, what do you do?
Well first of all there’s only really two choices you have. Give in or get away.
Chemistry is one of those things that can’t be faked or easily ignored. When two people have good chemistry and feelings for each other it sticks out like a bright red pimple on prom night. There for everybody to see. The interesting thing about a situation like this is that if the person is a friend that you spend time with, chemistry can build very fast up to the point where you’ll find yourself thinking about that person instead of your significant other.
Obviously this can become problematic. If the person is a friend as in the Emailer’s problem, it’s going to take a great deal of communication on both of your parts to figure out what to do.
Chemistry can be a very delicate thing especially when you don’t necessarily want to have romantic chemistry with a certain person. It calls into question what your heart is doing. If you already love someone but your heart begins drifting another way you have to figure out quickly what you’re going to do about it. Like I said, there’s only really two choices.
If you and the other person decide to keep the friendship the same and just ignore the chemistry- it’ll grow. Chemistry is a matter of the heart and as such is defiant and doesn’t just bow down to your demands. Have you ever heard the phrase “You can’t help who you love?” Well it’s true in every sense. You really can’t help who you fall for. Denying your heart what it desires will only make its’ passion grow. It’s like telling a highly motivated person that they can’t do something. Most likely they’re going to prove you wrong.
So what’s the solution?
In the situation I’m addressing it involves two close friends. In that situation only I’d say kiss once. Being close friends and knowing each other well should be a great help. But one way or another you’ve got to find out whether this is just a breeze that’s going to blow through or if it’s a longterm thing that needs to be addressed. Much can be solved by one kiss. Then after that decide whether you give in- or get away.
My Two Cent on Love 